BE A TRUE FRIEND!

 EVERYDAY IN THE WORD!

TUESDAY DECEMBER 14, 2021.

SUBJECT: BE A TRUE FRIEND!

Memory verse: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” (Proverbs 17 vs 17.) 

READ: First Samuel 20 vs 11 - 17:

20:11: And Jonathan said to David, “Come, let us go out into the field. So both of them went out into the field.

20:12: Then Jonathan said to David, “The LORD God of Israel is witness! When I have sounded out my father sometime tomorrow, or the third day, and, indeed there is good toward David, and I do not send to you and tell you,

20:13: May the LORD do so and much more to Jonathan. But if it pleases my father to do you evil, then I will report it to you and send you away, that you may go in safety. And the LORD be with you, as He has been with my father.

20:14: And you shall not only show me the kindness of the LORD while I still live, that I may not die;

20:15: but you shall not cut off your kindness from my house forever, no, not when the LORD has cut off every one of the enemies of David from the face of the earth.”

20:16: So Jonathan made a covenant with the house of David, saying, “Let the LORD require it at the hand of David's enemies.

20:17: Now Jonathan caused David to vow, because he loved him: for he loved him as he loved his own soul.

INTIMATION:

A friend is an intimate associate; an association of familiarity and companionship. It is a close or intimate acquaintance; a favorer, wellwisher, or supporter. A true friend will stick close, listen, care, and offer help where it is needed—in good times and bad. It is better to have one such friend than dozens of superficial acquaintances. Instead of wishing you could find a true friend, seek to become one. There are people who need your friendship. Ask God to reveal them to you, and then take on the challenge of being a true friend.

There is a vast difference between knowing someone well and being a true friend. The greatest evidence of genuine friendship is loyalty; being available to help in times of distress or personal struggles. Too many people are fair-weather friends. They stick around when the friendship helps them and leave when they are not getting anything out of the friendship. Think of your friends and assess your loyalty to them. Be the kind of true friend the Bible encourages.

As I said earlier, loyalty is the greatest evidence of true and genuine friendship. Loyalty is one of life’s most costly qualities. It is the most selfless part of love. To be loyal, you cannot live only for yourself. Loyal people do not only stand by their commitments, they are willing to suffer for them.

In the passage we read today, Jonathan is a shining example of loyalty. Sometimes he was forced to deal with conflicting loyalties: to his father, Saul, and to his friend David. His solution to that conflict teaches us both how to be loyal and what must guide loyalty. In Jonathan, truth always guided loyalty. Even the opportunity that Jonathan had to assume the power of his father never affected his loyalty to his friend David, and he refused to think of assuming that position of power. That revealed the godly nature of him. His faith in the work of God through David was greater than any thirst for power. 

True friends are not only honest about themselves, but they are also honest about you. They are able to have difficult conversations in telling you things that sometimes you may not be eager to hear. The key is that they do it in love and with grace. Jonathan said to David that nothing would destroy their bond of friendship, though they would not be in the presence of one another in the future. Regardless of the circumstances or environment, good friends are friends for life. 

Jonathan realized that the source of truth was God, who demanded his ultimate loyalty. It was his relationship with God that gave Jonathan the ability to deal effectively with the complicated solutions in his life. He was loyal to Saul because Saul was his father and the king. He was loyal to David because David was his friend. His loyalty to God guided him through the conflicting demands of his human relationships.

The conflicting demands of our relationships challenge us as well. If we attempt to settle these conflicts only at the human level, we will be constantly dealing with a sense of betrayal. But if we communicate to our friends that our ultimate loyalty to God and His truth, many of our choices will be much clearer. The truth in His Word, the Bible, will bring light to our decisions. Do those closest to you know who has your greatest loyalty? 

Prayer: Abba Father, endue me with the spirit of selflessness, love, and loyalty to You and others. Give me the grace to be a true friend, in Jesus’ Name I have prayed, Amen.

PRAISE THE LORD!